Lol hi okay so I was seeing this Australian guy for 6 weeks while he was working in LA for awards season. And well — he moved back to Australia lol. That’s a lot in itself. I’ve never felt the way i did with him w/anyone & now I’m sad in quarantine missing him lmao
I mean, wow. I have so many questions. This is incredible. This needs to be a movie. Why are you contacting me and not Hallmark?
But thank you for being my first ever respondent to my desperate plea for drama. It is very appreciated over here.
Okay, first things first. I think you need to be realistic and assess how your relationship currently stands. Are you guys still talking? How often? And how are you guys communicating? Is it still flirty, but with purpose? Or is it flirty because it’s fun to be flirty?
Let me explain. I used to find myself in a conundrum often in which I would meet a guy from a dating app who happened to be just in town for the holidays or who happened to be visiting from Chicago or who happened to be moving to Colorado to join a minor league baseball team. (Not bitter. It’s fine. Really.)
In each of these three examples, I hooked up with the guy on the first night I met them. (Not slutty. Women’s empowerment. Leave me alone.) And then, even though we were in different cities, I continued talking to them. And we flirted. A LOT. And I believed we could, and would, begin a relationship.
And I got my hopes up.
It’s human nature to want what you can’t have. I truly believe in all three of those cases, I probably wouldn’t have invited them over on the first date if they lived in the same city as me. I probably wouldn’t have caught feelings so quick, and I probably wouldn’t have believed I could have a relationship with them. Instead, I loved the excitement and the thrill of it all. I flirted with all of them, yes, and they flirted with me, but it wasn’t really ever going to be anything more serious.
Listen, Desiring-Australian-Bae, it could be different for you. Stranger things have happened. My experience is NOT your experience. But I think you really need to assess if this could be more serious for the both of you, or if you both knew he would be going back to Australia and THAT’S why the connection was so strong.
I would advise you to have a serious conversation with him if you don’t want to get your hopes up. If you guys do have potential to be something more, you have to look at the bright side of it all.
- He’s AUSTRALIAN. That’s amazing.
- If he was here in the states for award’s season, he could be back again, right?
- He has an Australian accent. Ugh, I’m really thrilled for you.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Because you have an international potential love. And that’s HOT.
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