advice on hooking up with your best friend

I drunkenly hooked up with one of my best friends by accident, but now I can’t stop thinking about him?? or maybe it’s the quarantine that’s getting to me lol HELP ME COMPREHEND 

Congrats on the hook up! That’s exciting stuff.

This is really hard for me to fully break down, because I don’t have many details. 

Who initiated the hookup? What do you mean “by accident”? Had you been interested in him prior to the hookup? How good of a friend is he? Do you like his personality? Was the hookup good???

I have more questions than answers (and I really want these answers!!! Tea!!!!), but I’ll answer as best as I possibly can.

After hooking up with someone, it is completely normal to be in your feelings about them. This guy is one of your best friends, so that’s especially going to complicate the situation. However, based on you sending in this question and the details of the situation, I would say there’s more than just typical after-hooking-up feelings.

Think about it: How many best friends do you have that you’ve never hooked up with? Exactly. You and this guy hooked up for a reason, I’m assuming.

Again, I don’t have the answers for you. Here’s what I can recommend:

  1. Journal about the situation. If you’re confused about your feelings on it and especially your feelings about him, this could be a great way to get everything off your mind and out into the world, in a safe place. 
  2. Once you’ve decided how you feel about the situation, talk to him about it. Do you want to just remain friends? Then you HAVE to address it. Do you want to be something more? Then you HAVE to address it. It’s only going to make your relationship more complicated and less comfortable if you don’t talk it through with him.
  3. Send me more details. PLEASE!

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